Mediation Works

Here is why:
Self Determination is the Key to Mediation. Resolve Conflict and Create Lasting Agreement with Mediation.

“There is peace even in the storm." ― Vincent van Gogh

Mediation is designed to help opposing parties reach a quiet, efficient, and amicable resolution to their case rather than deal with the unfortunate consequences of courtroom litigation. The most common cases I see involve divorcing spouses, but mediation can also be beneficial in probate cases and various civil litigation matters. Many Courts increasingly require mediation before trial, and statistics show it is highly effective in settling disputes.

As a seasoned mediator, I believe mediation works because the parties are able to reframe their conflict with new skills such as empathic listening and centered self expression. The result is an agreement crafted with self determination which is empowering and helpful for the parties to move forward.

Self Deteremination is the most important benefit to mediation. Rather than have a third party decide upon the agreement (which impacts the lives of the individuals involved) in Mediation the parties craft their own agreement. With a skilled mediator the parties can reach resolution. Further, when the resolution is crafted by the parties it usually has more staying power as the parties feel responsible for upholding and honoring it. After all, there is no way to predict how a judge or jury will resolve your matter, so choosing mediation is more likely to result in an agreement you and the other parties can live with.

That said, I understand that choosing the right option to resolve your unique dispute can be easier said than done. This is why i always go beyond the legal aspects of what i do to include practical, compassionate, and positive advice when you and your family need it most. It is important to me that you never feel unseen or unheard in this process. I am a certified integrative life coach, compassionate inquiry facilitator, meditation teacher, and I use many tools such as nonviolent communication and motivational interviewing. Mediation is the process of resolving conflict through compromise and communication. Most disputes are resolved by helping the parties learn a new way of expressing and listening which leads to understanding, empathy and compassionate resolution. Here are a few thought-provoking quotes about mediation to give you “food for thought.”

Inspirational Quotes About Mediation

‘Our differences don’t have to divide us” — Unknown

“Peace is not something you wish for, it is something you make, something you are, something you do and something you give away. ” ― Robert Fulghum

“You have peace," the old woman said, "when you make it with yourself.” ― Mitch Albom

“World peace must develop from inner peace. Peace is not just mere absence of violence. Peace is, I think, the manifestation of human compassion.” ― Dalai Lama XIV

“I still believe that peace and plenty and happiness can be worked out some way. I am a fool.” ― Kurt Vonnegut

“Better than a thousand hollow words is one word that brings peace.” ― Buddha

“Mediation is conflict’s way of looking at itself.” — Jeff Cohen.

“Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can.” — Abraham Lincoln.

“Love your child more than you hate trying to communicate with the other parent.” — Unknown author.

“Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it.” — Mahatma Gandhi.

“The courts of this country should not be the places where resolution of disputes begins. They should be the places where the disputes end after alternative methods of resolving disputes have been considered and tried.” — Sandra Day O’Connor.

“Conflict is inevitable but combat is optional.” — Max Lucado.

“Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” — William James.

“Never cut what you can untie.” — Joseph Joubert.

“Use soft words and hard arguments.” — English proverb.

“Nobody ever forgets where he buried the hatchet.” — Kin Hubbard.

“An ounce of mediation is worth a pound of arbitration and a ton of litigation!” — Joseph Grynbaum.

“When anger comes, wisdom goes.” — Hindi proverb.

if you’d like to explore hiring me as a mediator to help you resolve your dispute schedule a free consult here.

My legal and life experiences uniquely qualify me to serve as a mediator in your case. I serve as a mediator in Boulder, Longmont and the front range communities.